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  • Jeannie Seidel

Updated: Oct 10, 2019

"Intuition literally means learning from within. Most of us were not taught how to use this sense, but all of us know well that 'gut feeling'. Learn to trust your inner feeling and it will become stronger. Avoid going against your better judgement or getting talked into things that just don't feel right." ~ Doe Zantamata, Author & Artist


I still have vivid memories as far back as four years old of situations where I was trying to hear my intuition. You know, that "gut feeling" that tells you what decision to make or if something is right for you or if it's not. And I also remember how the adults in my life thought they knew more than a child and so they would discount my input, which would then make me doubt myself.


This is a natural response. Adults do have more "life experience" than a four year old, right? Hmmmm, but "life experience" is colored by knowledge gained specifically by that individual, whether good or bad. So, maybe that wouldn't turn out to be so reliable because they may only see their own personal viewpoint, which could be pretty limiting if they are a very opinionated person.


In all those situations where I had a gut feeling, the thing I said would happen, then did happen and this showed me that actually, I was right. Was it a little freaky? Sure. But that was my confirmation that logic isn't always the answer and those who think they know everything through their own "reasoning" and experience aren't always right. This is why you should be careful of what advice you take from other people. Just because they mean well or want the best for you, doesn't mean their opinion on how you should proceed is accurate.


Lucky for me, I had a very intuitive older sister who constantly encouraged me to follow my gut instincts, no matter if my logical mind couldn't understand it. Even if SHE did not agree with my gut feeling, she would still encourage me to follow it.


"No matter how much I care about you, I can't tell you what's right for you," she would say. "Just follow your gut! You know the answer already." I thank God she was the person guiding me through my life. Most people are trying to get you to follow THEIR agendas. She is one of the very few people who said I should follow myself.


This blog post is my attempt to help you to hear your own inner voice. Your own intuition. Everybody has dreams and goals, and everyone deserves the right to pursue them. The only way to find that happiness is through listening to your intuition.


In my opinion, every single person on this planet has intuition. Each person has their own unique life path to follow, individual talents and an inner compass that guides them along their journey. I believe this comes from our connection to the spirit world.


I was recently talking to a friend about when I left the 9-5 world about 8 years ago. I started explaining that I decided to just leave with no plan and instead of trying to control everything, for the first time, I let life lead me.


This decision came after four years of saving money and researching every possible job I thought I might be interested in. But when nothing sounded like it was going to make me happier than the current job I was in, that told me, I just had to jump and let my "new life" find me. So I did.


I let situations and opportunities come to me and then I would decide whether or not it was the right direction to follow at that time. I had various things float my way: graphic design projects, resume writing, bar tending jobs, pet sitting jobs, substitute teaching jobs, you name it, I probably did it.


My friend asked me, "How did you know if what came your way was the right thing or not?" Her question made me think about how most people don't make decisions based on their gut feelings. My response was, "I just had to take a step back and see if the opportunity felt right or if it felt wrong." It was the simplest answer I could come up with. But there's much more to it than that.


As I mentioned above, from a very young age, we are taught by the adults in our lives that we must be "good" people and we must be "productive" people who make these wonderful life achievements and logical decisions. This is the kind of thinking we need to let go of and "unlearn" to find our own true voice.


Maybe your parents had dreams about the type of person you would be and hoped you would become a "success." Well, what does that even mean? It means, don't give up! Overcome every obstacle in your path and then you are a success! Make tons of money and you are considered a success. You work your butt off to the point of sacrificing your health / well-being and then you get rewarded with that degree, or that promotion or that house.


But did you enjoy the journey of getting there? Or did you just focus on overcoming obstacles and just achieving your end goal so you could get all that money and accolades from friends / family?


Somewhere in there, actual happiness gets lost. The American culture is so achievement and material based, almost to a fault. People sometimes get SO FOCUSED on the goal and impressing other people that they dismiss all the signs and messages that "obstacles" might be trying to tell them along their journey.


If you hit a roadblock or obstacle, stop for a second and think about it. Is it saying, this is not the right thing for your life? Is it saying now is not the right time? Is it saying maybe you need to go in a different direction and try something else? Is it testing your commitment to this goal and asking if you really want it? Maybe you simply need to take a break or a step back and get some rest before proceeding. These are all intuitive based. And it can be complicated to know which one of these is correct. This is where you have to take the time to learn how YOUR personal intuition works.


How do you start the process of hearing your own intuition? Question your reasons on why you're doing something. And be brave enough to be honest in your answer.

This answer is the beginning point of following your inner compass.


By the time I was ready to leave 9-5, I asked myself, why am I working in this job? My answer was, to pay my bills. That wasn't a good enough reason for me to stay. I know - I don't have kids and at the time I was single. BUT I did have a mortgage to pay. I also had to figure out health insurance and I had to afford groceries. At the very least, I didn't want to be homeless or a burden for my family to take care of, right? But still money was not a good enough reason for me to stay. Why? because I wasn't happy.


So here we are leading to more answers: why am I still at this job? Money. Does Money replace the lack of happiness in this situation? No. And in fact, if I am only here for the money, well, there are LOTS of other ways to make money to pay bills that might possibly make me happier. So, how about I try some of those options instead, get paid for doing other things that I might enjoy and see where they lead. So that's where I started from. That was my intuition telling me there was a better life out there for me. And I just had to listen to it step by step to get there.


I'm not saying it's easy. I've had ups and downs and doubts just like we all do. Those NEVER go away no matter how happy you are with your life. But the point is to create a life that makes you happy on a high level where those ups, downs, and doubts are just minor bumps in the road. Everybody has struggles, but finding the "right" path for you helps to lessen those struggles because you're satisfied with your life.


For me, I wanted to just live each day and enjoy it as much as possible. I wasn't interested in more money, a big house or a high-powered job title. I wanted to be my authentic self and contribute on a daily basis, however I felt like without having a job tell me what to do.


There are many simple ways to contribute in life. Like taking my nephew to his driver's test. Or taking care of someone's dog while they are away on vacation. Or filling in as a substitute teacher. Or making a piece of art that really uplifts somebody's day. Or picking up a family member from surgery. Some of these we may get paid for, some we might not. But for me, enjoying HOW I contribute is a key piece of my happiness. Living each moment and utilizing my own skills and talents how I choose and in a way that means something to me is the core of how I operate.


But that's MY intuition. YOUR intuition might tell you to make more money because it will make you feel valued at work. Or buy a big house because deep down you want 5 kids. Or you do want a high-powered job because that's how you personally achieve fulfillment.


There is no "one-size-fits-all" answer. Which is the very reason why it's best to really truly follow your own gut feelings. Sometimes this means making choices others don't understand. There were many people who didn't understand the choices I was making. And it was totally worth ignoring them because I'm living a life that makes me feel fulfilled.


There is a path for everyone. And if we are brave enough to stop and listen to our gut feelings, we will be led to better jobs, better relationships, better health, and an overall better and happier life.

  • Jeannie Seidel

Updated: Sep 20, 2019

Lately, I’ve been pondering perceptions. Everybody has an opinion, right? Opinions about you, what you "should" do, how they think you are, and pretty much any other topic you can think up. I think that’s the main reason why it’s SO important to form your own strong opinions of yourself, independent of other’s perceptions.


Perceptions, judgments, opinions, whatever you want to call them, actually say a lot more about the people making them than the people receiving them. Some people may see my artwork as frivolous or silly. Others seem to light up when they receive my wands bc to them it’s something special and unique. It all depends on that person’s viewpoint, life experience and their personal definition of success.


I think if you live a life that makes you happy, then you’re a complete success. It doesn’t matter what your job title is, how much you make, how talented you are, how many awards you’ve won, or even how many people love you or don’t. If you’re living a life to impress others INSTEAD of living a life that makes YOU happy, then I feel like you’ve fallen into that “keep up with the Joneses” trap. Just don’t fall for it. That “thing” you think is going to make you “happy” is a fleeting moment. And then what? On to the next thing.


To me, being a successful artist means that I make items that fulfill my imagination. I make quality items that I personally would love to buy myself. I make my art at my own pace so the creative process is enjoyable for ME, and the people who buy my pieces, treasure them. I don’t need to make some crazy amount of money or get an art degree to prove I’m an artist. Just like I don’t have to justify to anyone who my friends are, who I married, or that I decided not to have children.


I’m the one who has to live my life on a daily basis. Making choices based on other’s opinions would put me in a people pleasing tail spin bc there are millions of perceptions out there of varying degrees and they all contradict each other. That sounds like a recipe for exhaustion to try to prove yourself to all those varying opinions. No thanks.


And NONE of it is real. You could ask 50 people their opinion of the same person and you will probably get 50 contradictory opinions of that 1 person. How can that be? She’s completely evil AND she’s a perfect angel, too. Hmmmmmm…..sounds like opinions are a bunch of useless crap. And so is your “reputation” bc it’s compiled of other people’s opinions.


Your ego and your self-worth are not the same thing. I can run around trying to gain recognition and admiration from others, "prove" myself to them and feed my ego. Or I can care about the opinions of those who truly matter to me. And I can have the guts to believe in myself even when the outside world disagrees. So many times I had people tell me I’m not an artist bc I don’t have an art degree. Tell that to the retail shops who sell my wares and the lovely souls who buy them. If I had listened to those people, I wouldn’t be living the life path that is meant for me. The life path that makes me happy.


If I had listened to other people, I would've married some "successful" wealthy, smart "perfect" man right out of college, (perfect on paper that is), maybe I would have pushed myself to become a "successful" lawyer or doctor to prove how smart and successful I am and raise 4 perfect little children in our McMansion. Wow. I'm so great with all my accomplishments lol. Sounds like a nightmare to me. Bc down the road, I would have ditched the husband bc he would have been all wrong for me. I would have ditched the high-powered job bc "something" would feel like it's missing from my life and the kids would wind up hating me bc in their bones they would have always felt I didn't really want them. Bc well, I didn't. DUH. Why would I have kids that I never felt I wanted? Oh, right bc according to other people I'm selfish if I don't have kids. OK sure. I'm just a mindless drone who agrees with what society tells me about myself.


By making life choices, just to be accepted by others, you mess up many people's lives, including your own.


Remember, YOU are actually the only person who needs to like you and I think following your intuition and heart is the core of making that happen. Allowing your self-worth to inflate or decrease based on approval or disapproval of others is actually not self-worth at all. It’s just your ego playing tricks on you. You are valuable simply bc you exist.


“We keep waiting to be crowned, waiting for the world to judge us worthy of offering our brightest, most empowered and beautiful stuff. But that won’t happen. Your next certification or ordination or degree will do nothing for your expression in the world until you accept how unspeakably worthy and valuable you already are to be here and share yourself with us.”


― Jacob Nordby, Author

  • Jeannie Seidel

Updated: Jan 4, 2019

"Intentional living is the art of making our own choices before others' choices make us." ~Richie Norton, Author I don't know about you, but sometimes I wanna flick a magic wand, remove every obstacle & clear a path for everything to go exactly as I want. (Sorry...did you say you don't have a magic wand?! Well, most of us don't, BUT I can help with that, too. Just click here :)

Even incredibly magical chicks like you & I still have days when it's a challenge to move life in the direction we want to go. Maybe we committed to a long-term career we thought we wanted, but it turned out to be a dead end. Or maybe several setbacks are thrown in our path all at once & it totally derails our plans. Or we've had multiple life transformations happening back-to-back, but we're still "adjusting". Let's face it, good or bad, sometimes life just gets crazy busy. I've had many exciting life changes over the past several years. BIG changes. With each big change, I've had to take a step back, look at the big picture & tap into the magical woman I am. I had to find ways to keep setting my intentions for the direction of my life, even among whatever unforeseen events come my way. So here, I want to share with you a few simple ways to hit the re-set button to redirect your life towards YOUR intentions, dreams and goals... because sometimes it's easy to get swept up in our barrage of friends & family...and to forget about ourselves.



1. Give yourself an Energy Boost!

A close friend of mine gave me this simple idea when I decided to prioritize all my new life changes. She said: think of all the activities (& people) that give you an amazing burst of energy. Make a list of these energizing elements & no matter how busy you get, make it a priority to do at least one item from your list during the week. When you focus on energy boosting activities & people, even just one day a week, it feeds your spirit with a boost that empowers and motivates you to tackle life's not-so-fun responsibilities. (And you'll also pay more attention to situations that drain your energy, too) Some of the items on my energy boosting list were: yoga, working on art projects, going to the movies and spending time with my mother-in-law. Yes, I LOVE my mother-in-law...so lucky, right? What are some of the items on your list?


2. Acting before Thinking = Regret


In contrast, make a list of activities you THINK sound like a good idea at the time, but you almost always regret doing later. i.e. staying out way too late with that one friend who inspires heavy drinking which then turns into a massive hangover for you and also a day wasted (or a night "wasted" depending on how you look at it lol). You love the laughter & fun they bring to your life, so you may not be aware that sometimes they're derailing your focus and your goals. Writing these scenarios down will help you notice them more easily and also bring them to the forefront of your mind, so you can try to avoid them in the future. And avoiding at least some of these things, some of the time, will make you feel like you're more in control of the outcome.


3. Flexible Scheduling


I recently discovered this amazing FREE project management app called Asana. I have it on my phone and it syncs to my laptop, too, so I can revise & check it from anywhere. I use it to create "projects" and tasks with due dates. You can use it to prioritize everything from Dr appointments to house chores to work-related items. It gives you a sort-of time saving "map" of what you're doing that day, week, month, etc. You can also drag and drop tasks to another date so that you can accommodate those unexpected curve balls, yet you still have a schedule in-tact right at your fingertips. There are plenty of mobile calendar options out there, but I really LOVE this one bc you can separate your tasks into categories and color code your entries, too, which really appeals to the artist in me. Check it out: asana.com


4. Dream in Real Life


Think about your dream vacation, wedding, job or whatever your heart desires! Even if you don't have the resources right now to get there, start planning out the details anyway. I firmly believe when you start thinking about the dream more often and start planning it in reality, it will propel your life in the direction of achieving it. And if nothing else, it will get you excited about future possibilities and new ideas even if, say, you might be currently stuck in a job you hate or don't have money for the vacation right now, etc. Just trying to flesh out the real details of that exciting future with concrete information gives you more focus on what you intend to happen in your life and it also reaffirms your belief in the probability that it will happen.


5. Go out and Play


Check your college degree, accomplishments and job title at the door (also leave behind your need for approval, this is about YOU....it's not about other people's opinions of you ;) Start asking your 8-year-old self what things she looked forward to doing as a grownup & get out and do them!  Did you want to play guitar or go skydiving? or maybe you used to go ice skating when you were little and you really miss it? Check in with your inner child and ask them to come out and play! When I was 8, I remember I couldn't wait to grow up so I could go out on NYE bc my older siblings always seemed like they were having a lot of fun! When I finally became an adult, NYE didn't live up to my expectations, until I met my husband 6 years ago, who happens to be a silly goof just like me! :) So, now, he & I travel every NYE to some random small town to watch funny things "drop" at midnight all over the US. My inner 8 year old LOVES it so much! So far we've done 6 new year's eve drops in 6 different small towns. This year we went to the Muskrat Dive in Princess Anne MD and met some fun new friends while we were there! If you google "weird things that drop at midnight on New Year's Eve" you'll see what I'm talking about LOL! So get out and get totally silly with your inner child. Realise some of those fun & playful dreams that maybe you've forgotten. "Adulting" can create many demands on our time and energy. Sometimes we get pulled in too many directions & we start to feel like instead of consciously choosing our lives, we're just reacting to everything that comes our way. This overload can leave us little time for our own intentions, dreams or fun. But isn't life meant to be enjoyed?! I say, go on with your bad self and ride life's crazy train with its cast of characters, responsibilities and random happenings, but at least try to drive the train in the direction YOU want to go. Make your happiness a top priority AND ditch the idea that making yourself a top priority is selfish. If you aren't happy with your life, chances are you won't make anyone around you happy either. Nobody likes a crabby witch no matter how magical she may be ;)


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